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With
last months reasons to be thankful and this months good will toward men/women,
I felt it was time for a healing article. So we can better appreciate the
loved ones and the impact we have on them and others around us. I know
this time of year is hard and you may not even be close to ready for this
article, if that is so keep it in mind when the time is right. Happy Holidays
and love the ones your with!
True
Freedom
Down
through the generations many have fought for our freedoms.
An individual or group only gained these freedoms by first realizing an
injustice and then acting upon it. In
our cases we have no issue determining what our injustice is, but what path for
action will we choose?
Whether
you have a spiritual side or not we all need to heal, to fully heal we must
forgive.
By
forgiveness I am not implying that we should forget and do nothing, but we must
act to save others and ourselves. If
we choose not to forgive we are allowing our situation to control us. We are
permitting our relationships, health, attitudes, activities and goals to be
governed by the very ones who have created our grief.
Most
of us at some point have heard something to the effect
“get over it or haven’t you taken this a little to far”.
My response to those who have the nerve to tell us to get over it is
“maybe you should get with it. Get
with the program and help make some real changes.
If you cannot dig in; at the very least be supportive of those who are
for your sake and theirs. How far
is to far? There can be a to far
and that is determined by a few variables.
Facing
your anger
·
Do you have a temper, lose control, and/or anger easily to the point
it may be even embarrassing to you?
·
Are you haunted by mistakes in your past be it yours, the offenders
and/or the losses?
·
Is your health affected by past decisions and/or the offender?
·
Are
you obsessed with the injury or the offender to the point your family life is
affected?
·
Has
the injury changed your life or your worldview?
Our worldview will change however are you consumed by fear, mistrust,
and/or hate?
We
all have experienced this type of anger and maybe from time to time we will
experience them again. The real
issue is how do we choose to handle this anger?
Do we face anger head on or do we hold on and continue to let it tear our
loved ones and us down?
Our
decision to choose freedom
·
Is
what you have been doing working for you and your loved ones?
·
Are
you willing to begin path of forgiveness.
·
Make
a decision to forgive and release their (the offender/injury) control over you.
Choosing
the freedom path and acting on it will instill a positive attitude and heal our
wounds. This does not remove the
scares that remain and remind us daily however we will be able to focus on
reaching our companionate side, the goals we would like to obtain, and fulfill
our real purpose in life.
Choosing
the freedom path
·
Acknowledge
your pain and anguish the offence and offender have caused and let it go.
You were and are entitled to your anger however it is not good for you
and your family’s health and healing.
·
Remember
the compassion you once had and how it affected yourself and others.
·
Act
on your compassionate side. Do an
act of kindness toward the offender/offence, and respect your decision.
This
can be done; it may be difficult and you may feel they do not deserve
forgiveness as I did. I myself had
to say it out loud not even really meaning it at first and contemplating whom
else could be responsible also. Which
in turn made me realize it was not just the immediate group but the system was
also responsible. None of this means
that they should not be held accountable but how can we be mad at the world or
the country for that matter? If we
choose our anger, will we really be able to make real changes or will others see
us as radicals and dismiss us?
Our
grieving process will help determine our paths.
At first we have many paths to choose some of which will seem never
ending and some just a skip but there comes a time when we reach a fork in the
road. If we choose the freedom path
we will also discover much about others and ourselves.
You will not stoop to the level of your offender. You are stronger than
you realize. You are not alone in
your plight. You will obtain your
life purpose. The path we choose
will either gain our freedom or insure our bondage. Choose the path to freedom.
This
article was inspired by:
Steve
Saint
About
a year ago I saw the End of The Spear.
A true life account about five missionaries speared
to death by an Ecuadorian tribe of Waodani.
I
saw the parallel of workplace deaths. Families’ morning a loss, trying to make
sense of it all. After all they
were doing a job that they were commissioned to do.
The
Man that who’s view this was told from was Steve Saint, the son of Nate Saint
(one of the men killed). Mr. Saint’s life was truly moving no matter what walk
of life you come from. You can’t help feeling shaken, confused and wondering
where that kind of strength comes from. Does it even exist?
Then
last week I had the opportunity to hear Mr. Saint speak, he gave 3 different
talks. I visited the 3rd
and to be honest I felt it was one of the most inspiring talks I have ever
heard. Anyone who has had multiple tragedies in their life will do good to hear
this along with the other two messages. This
is a church service so give it a few to get to the meat of the subject you
really have to here his side of the story.
Located:
Audio
Files Our
Life Statement -- part 3 |
